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Hello beautiful Highlites, Let me talk to you guys about how I got caught up. When I first started my blog little over a year ago it was for fun — a hobby, something to take up some of my time since we had became empty nesters, and to inspire women like me to be themselves, wear what you want and like, and to be happy being you and to share some of my outfits.

Well, all that changed when the more I was on social media, I became depressed. I started to doubt and compare my life and world to the lives of the bloggers that has been blogging for years.

I didn't start my blog to become an entrepreneur or "boss chick." But l began to  think my life was nothing because I still worked in the corporate world. Still getting up going into an office working 9-5 and for someone else. I thought my life was good before blogging. I liked my life and I wouldn't have changed anything about it. 

Everyone seems so happy, always going places, collaborating with companies, everyone always booed up with their boo, it started to put doubt in my mind about my life. People aren't "bloggers" anymore they are influencers. I started to want THAT girl's life. And I've never wanted anybody else's life because I always thought what if they have bigger problems or issues underlining that I don't have.

But one day I came across a meme that said don't believe everything you see on social media and as I started to pay closer attention, I realized I had gotten caught up — caught up in the fakeness of social media that is.

"Social media — the first mass medium to allow people to publicly share their thoughts, feelings and lives with others — has become dangerously inauthentic. From cries of "fake news" to the rise of bots, bogus followers and other trolls, its hard to know whom, what or where to trust." says Bob Deutsch, a cognitive anthropologist and founder of Brain-Sells.

But you see guys, I was caught up in so much of that, I once wanted to resign from my job to be a entrepreneur or "boss chick" — but to do what?  I don't know because I had never thought about either because I was satisfied with getting up every morning to go to work. 

I was willing to give up a job that God blessed me with. a job that I have been on almost 20 years with only a few years to retire.  Employed with one of the top 10 companies in the world. This job has provided me with the means to help my husband with the kind of life we have been living and it’s a pretty good life.

This job provides me with health insurance where we are able to have annual check-ups free of charge, to go to the doctor when we are sick for a small co-pay, dental insurance- two cleanings per year free of charge, vision annual exams with two pair of glasses at little or no cost, life insurance,  a 401k savings for retirement, four weeks of vacation along with discretionary days, hours of 7-3:30 and off on weekends — plus so much more.

I'm not saying all of this to brag and boast. I'm saying this because I want you guys to know how easy it is to get caught up in all the fabulousness. I begin to think I wasn’t being real because I had got caught up in the fabulousness of social media and putting so much pressure to be like everyone else.

But no more, I’m older and at this point in my life I like where it’s headed.  I'm excited about my life about being authentically me, I'm grateful for it and I'm taking it back and thanking God for it every day. So the next time you are caught up and down about your life because of what someone else that you probably don't know is living, look in the mirror, count your blessings. Entrepreneurship is not for everybody.

"Boss chicks" work 9 to 5. We're all boss chicks to me, whether you are getting up going to an office or working for yourself. Taking care of business no matter how it's done. Getting it done, handling up on business.

I was so caught up that I had forgot about my true calling, my dream and that’s mentoring to young girls. Fashion is fun, but giving back to the community is more worthy. 

Have a good day and thanks for stopping by. See you next time.

PS: The outfit in the pictures above are from our Las Vegas trip. We were at the Prince tribute. Top and shorts are from Rainbow Shops and shoes are Chase + Chloe.

Debbie Jones